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Girls Talk? :)
Tuesday, June 26, 2007
Got this article from HERE. Hope you girls will learn something, same to the boys. God bless.
Heard of this book by a friend recently, it's called "Stuff a Girl's Got To Know"! It's very insightful, and I feel that a lot of us girls can benefit from knowing these simple facts that we should always try to remember even if we already know it Very Happy
Picked out some vital key points for everyone's easy reading!
Enjoy and I hope it blesses everyone :)
* Can be cruel
* Can be fickle
* Often say unkind things to girls whom they are attracted to (GO FIGURE!)
* May find it too intimidating to be honest with their feelings – especially if they are uncomfortable handling their emotions towards girls – so they tease –some of their teasing crosses the line and it hurts.
What’s a girl to do?
* Let it go
o Choosing to hold a grudge only hurts you!
o Jesus teaches us to forgive – no matter how much it hurts/ if the person deserves it or not
o When you forgive others, you are being obedient to God
o Let go of their stinging comments and move forward
* Write it down
o Bottling up your fractured feelings can lead to an emotional explosion (This seriously can help :))
* Talk it out
o Share your feelings with a mature Christian friend, trusted youth leader or parent
o Sometimes talking helps a ton
* Drive you crazy
* Make you feel like a princess
* Make you SO MAD
* Can melt your heart with just ONE LITTLE GRIN!
* Don’t give guys the power to determine your sense of personal value or attractiveness.
* You don’t need a boyfriend to prove you are loveable!
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* What we have with Jesus is a real relationship.
* Only God can make you complete!
* There’s a definite joy in knowing God personally! (Amen!!)
* God’s love is more personal than a card or a pink heart (Yes girls. Hahaha)
* His grace – more abundant than you can ever imagine
* His love is true love – not a feeling that overtakes us when someone walks in the door; rather, it’s an honest and heartfelt commitment, a dedication, a willingness to keep loving, even when someone may not love us back
* God is the God of second chances – He died for you and promised you eternity with Him – loving you every step of the way and being with you.
* Don’t lose heart – in God’s eyes, you are beautiful and treasured!!
* When you start to trust God and find your worth in Him, it changes more than just the inside of you
* Let God be your first love!
Matthew 22:37 – Jesus replied, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.”
* Your value isn’t based on whether other people like you or not – based on God – He values you, therefore you are valuable. (Yay! How true is that, girls?)
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* It’s our responsibility to help our brothers in Christ [and guys in general] to maintain pure thoughts by dressing modestly
* It is the guy’s responsibility to maintain self-control – but we can help by choosing to wear clothes that don’t attract so much attention to our bodies. (I find that the clothes that attract less attention to our bodies are often the most comfortable clothes, so really - yay for comfort :p)
* The key word: CHOOSE.
* Be willing to:
o Sacrifice fashion flair to be obedient to God’s word
o Refuse to be a potential stumbling block to guys
o Be more interested in inner substance than in style
o Be a godly example instead of building a trendy wardrobe
o Be ok with not “fitting in” with what lots of other girls are wearing
Romans 14:13 – Therefore let us stop passing judgment on one another. Instead, make up your mind not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in your brother’s way.
*Hold each other accountable for dressing modestly and honoring God – your body is His temple!
1 Corinthians 6:19 – 20 – Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
Romans 12:2 – Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is – his good, pleasing and perfect will.
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* A “crisis” is a period of intensity – when everything seems to come ‘to a head’
* During this time – you are most likely to ask:
o Who am I really?
o Do I count for anything?
o What’s the purpose of my life?
o What’s really important?
* As we gain independence we develop our own opinions- own way of doing things
* A teen’s identity crisis: separating from parents and knowing who she is apart from them
* Knowing who Jesus is for you, and who you are to Jesus, can really help you through this separation more smoothly
* Luke 15:11 – 32 [Prodigal Son]
* Some things you may experience:
o Doubts about yourself, your parents, other authority figures and their rules
o Arguments with your parents – the desire to go against their standards
o Experimenting with things [clothes, makeup, friends, music, language, food]
o Facing new temptations [alcohol, drugs, sex, lying, stealing] – you may feel the desire to try these things but that doesn’t mean that you should do them – they are dangerous and will lead you down the wrong path
o Seeing your parents as less than perfect
o Dissatisfaction, frustration, boredom, anger and anxiety about what others think of you
o Wanting to change friends or cling to close friends
o Feeling like you want to get away from everything that’s familiar
* Suggestions on what you can do:
o Go to God – ask God to help you sort out your feelings
o Talk about it with your close friends
o Find a gal with whom you can relate – pray with and for each other (this is important. I personally believe that if you hold someone accountable like this, you'll be more likely to be more faithful about examining the condition of your heart and mind than if you harbor these things within yourself!)
o Don’t panic!
o Talk with your parents
* You won’t always feel this way – this ‘crisis’ will come to an end
* Resist the temptation to take drastic actions
* Keep a journal of your feelings
* Choose healthy, positive outlets when you’re angry, frustrated or fearful
* God made you and He is with you during this difficult period
* Talk to Him in prayer
* God can give you…
o Patience when you feel like blowing up at someone
o Self control when you need to honor your parents and appreciate your siblings
o Wisdom when you need to see how both good and bad family experiences are shaping you into the person He wants you to be
o Peace when nothing makes sense
o Joy in the unfolding, developing and separating that is part of growing up
Reposted with permission of Author.